(*I think the title is supposed to be in quotation marks rather than italicized....yikes! That one's mine!)
For me, it would honestly be the same answer whether I'm immortal or not: I wouldn't want to go on living if anything were to happen to my son, Samuel. This isn't easy to write about, but I'm going to go ahead and say it--just so you know, this is going to get really personal, so if you don't want to read something really personal about your instructor, stop reading here.
Anyway, I have, in my lifetime, dealt with death enough to last several lifetimes for one person. Most significantly have been my child losses. I had a stillbirth in March 1999. (I was two weeks away from my due date, so I was full term.) Later that same year, in November, I had a miscarriage. Samuel was finally born in May 2001 after a long, difficult, scary pregnancy. Then, in 2005, in November--yes, again, I had another miscarriage (that one actually started while I was here at CVCC--I was taken away via ambulance). So, for me, Samuel is the light of my life. Sure, my husband and other family members are very important to me. I love them all very much. But Samuel is IT. I live for him. My life does revolve around him.
Maybe it's wrong of me to put so much time and effort into my son, but after what I've been through, I simply can't help it. I have always been a person who wanted children. Yes, children. Even though I went to college to get a DEGREE in teaching English rather than for my "Mrs." degree, I still knew that I would one day get married and have children. Being a working woman was not going to keep me from being a mother. I was living in the 20th Century, for heaven's sake. Women all around me were having their cake and eating it, too (getting married and having families as well as jobs outside the home). There was no reason whatsoever that I couldn't have the same.
(So why haven't I tried again since 2005? Several reasons: one, my husband is sick and tired of watching me suffer--which is ironic considering my recent health issues (I had a diverticulitus attack back in 2009--I almost died--I had two separate operations within 3 months--both to save my life, essentially) and two: I can't because in 2010, I had something called an ablasion, which destroys the lining of the uterus, so I can't get pregnant--at all.)
Therefore, I'd be happy to have immortality as long as it means that I can be alive to see my son grow up, go to college, get married, have a family of his own, have a job he loves, and LIVE. Otherwise, that's it. My "bucket list" is void next to that. Sure I'd love to write something that would actually get published and be successful as a writer. That WOULD BE awesome--a dream come true. But even that is insignificant next to being around for my son.
I GET the whole idea that we talked about in class about the desire to end life, even an immortal one, because of loneliness. There truly is nothing worse in this world than being alone. My true worst fear in life is to die alone. The saddest stories I've ever heard are the one about people who die and it's weeks before anyone even knows they've died. Friends, family, and even acquaintances are more important in our lives than most people realize or even understand. It's only when we are left standing alone, especially at times in our lives when we NEED our loved ones, that we truly realize how very important they really are.
The easy answer to the question of what would ruin immortality for me would be when I finally have read all the books I've ever wanted to read--several times. Or when I've seen all the movies I'd ever want to see. Sad that I couldn't write about those things instead, I know.....
I LOVE stories about immortality and Mary Shelley's "The Mortal Immortal" certainly fits into that category!!!!!!
(Just for fun, if I can find it, I'm going to post a link to a clip from the movie Highlander with Christopher Lambert (one of my hotties) where the title line is "There can be only one!" and the way for the immortals in this story to die is via beheading. It's actually the music video by Queen for the movie, but it's still worth watching! Yeah, I know Queen!!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYOE_b4aYD0)
Bibliography
Shelley, Mary Wollstonecraft. "The Mortal Immortal." The Norton Anthology of English Literature. Eds. Jack Stillinger and Deidre Shauna Lynch. 8th ed. New York: W. W. Norton & Company, 2006. 961-970. Print.
You should never think about dying alone. Your bubbly personality will always bring people to your side. I'm sorry you had to go through so much before and after having Samuel. I can understand where you're coming from when you say he is your life. My partner is my life and my world revolves her. I would lay down and die at any giving moment just to save her. I would never want to be immortal because I like that fact of us growing old together. After she died I wouldnt know what to do if I was immortal. And yes I read your whole blog lol!!!
ReplyDeleteI am so honored and blessed to be your sister and to see how you have come through such despair is incredible. You are very well loved and I would never let you die alone (unless I died first). But I would not want to be an immortal. While I'm terrified of death I'm more terrified of living a long time. I'd like to hit my peak and then be done. My bucket list has been complete - I swam with dolphins in Hawaii and I've lived a great life with a great family so anything after that is just gravy. Now to just read a book.....
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